chief editor at Sexography | aspiring alcoholic trying to navigate the modern world of dating

Don’t forget about fundamental traits that would help you connect and take your sexual adventure on a whole new level.

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A few months ago I wrote an article pondering what really makes someone good at sex.

While working on that piece, I did a lot of research to go along with my own personal experience and the stories I’ve heard from my friends and co-writers.

Back then, the variety of answers and information I found was fascinating. There was no way to describe even a few qualities that were universally “good” or “bad” when it comes to sex. …


Maybe if we talked about it more, people wouldn’t feel ashamed to go to a doctor or talk to their sexual partners about safety?

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When I left my OBGYN’s office on New Year’s Day with a stack of medication and papers a week after my accidental unsafe sexual adventure, I couldn’t help but laugh at the irony.

A sex writer and co-founder of sexual publication just got diagnosed with an STI. What a headline and a wonderful New Year’s present.

At first, I felt ashamed. I’ve always been extremely cautious about my health, had regular blood tests, necessary checkups, and STI swab tests almost every month when sexually active. However, we all tend to make mistakes. …


How come there’s still such a bold line between men and women when it comes to something as simple as sex?

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“When I first saw you at the party a few months ago, I thought you were a whore,” a friend of mine told me a few days ago. “But then I got to know you and realized I couldn’t have been more wrong.”

It wasn’t the first time someone thought or actually called me a slut after seeing me at a party or at the same company as them. And even though I don’t sleep with every guy I’m friends with, they still see me around a lot of men and make their own judgment.

“I remember a girl just…


By faking an orgasm and showing men that it really is that equally easy to make someone come, we only contribute to the orgasm gap.

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Cosmopolitan’s Female Orgasm Survey claims that only 57% of women usually have orgasms, where only 15% of women were able to achieve orgasm from vaginal intercourse with no additional clitoral stimulation.

Based on that data, you shouldn’t be ashamed of having a hard time achieving your orgasm and even more, feeling embarrassed to talk about it with your partner.

Even if you can come from penetration alone, the female body is way too complex for us to have an orgasm as quickly and easily as men. Sometimes, we’re not focused and concentrated enough and can just “lose it” right before…


Being a sex writer doesn’t always mean you want to have sex every second of your life.

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Being a sex writer is an interesting job that expands your horizons and helps you reflect on a lot of experiences knowing it could potentially help someone who is going through a similar problem. However, it’s also a burden that becomes heavier the more people from your real-life discover your writing.

I don’t write under a pen name and often mention my non-sexual articles on my personal social media. It’s not a secret that I’m the co-founder of Sexography because to me, there’s no shame in raising the importance of sex education and sex-positivity in our modern world.

But there’s…


And for a little while, it makes you feel the world is a bit more beautiful and fulfilled than it used to be.

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There are songs in this world that feel like love.

They are slowed and warm. As though they are suddenly playing inside your belly. The sound goes deeper as the butterflies inside you carry them up and down, creating a storm of uncertain warm feelings called love.

At that moment, even if you don’t have anyone in your life. You start to feel something about someone.

There are people like that, too. They feel warm even if they’re cold. Deep, even though they might be the most superficial persons in this world. Still, you see them just like you once…


Maybe it’s time we stop comparing women with objects and let them be and enjoy all the sex they deserve?

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A few days ago, I was chatting with a friend of mine about her ex-boyfriend when she suddenly brought up that one piece of casual sex she had years ago. It seemed like she was embarrassed by it though based on her words, it was one of the best sexual experiences she’s ever had.

I asked her why she talks about it as a mistake if the sex was so good after she told me she never supported the concept of casual sex and always judged women who can sleep with someone on a first, second, and even the third…


If you truly care about making a woman come, you shouldn’t just fuck her and hope for the best.

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When people find out I write about sex and manage my own publication dedicated to Sex Education and Sexuality, they react differently. Some get really surprised and excited and ask a lot of questions about my work and things I get to see and read about, others, on the other hand, get worried because suddenly, they don’t know what to expect from having sex with me.

Back in January, when I brought home a guy I went on a few dates with, he frequently asked me whether or not I’m going to write about him and our sex in my…


Life is too short to not have all the sex and fun you deserve. And it sure does help you explore your sexuality better as long as you’re safe.

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A few months ago, I found myself in a rather dark place. I wasn’t depressed the way I usually get, but life suddenly became useless without a drink or a pill. It happened soon after a guy I’d been seeing for the first time after my last serious relationship had left me for another woman just when I started opening up to him and felt like we both began falling in love with each other. A day later, I found out that he was seeing someone else. Someone more suitable for him. Prettier perhaps. …


Though I absolutely saw it coming

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“It’s going to be so dark every morning soon,” I typed with barely enough strength to stretch out my thumb and press it against my phone. I was reflecting on the fact that it’s now autumn in Russia and Winter is coming. My friend replied, “I’m envious. Sometimes I stay up all night just to enjoy the darkness.” It felt like we were on the same page, but so far away from each other.

It came on suddenly, I felt very weak, had a slight fever and stuffy nose with a minor cough, and so I started treating myself for…

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